Just in case anyone is wondering what I wound up doing:
My control arm itself was fine. I was replacing my struts and tore the boot on the outer ball joint. After several failed attempts at finding a replacement that fit, I was prepared just to replace the whole damn arm just to get the car back on the road. << Impatience got the best of me, not my finest hour. After a few beers, and a couple days away from the car, i tried ordering a cheapo ball joint, took the boot off that, and voila! Back in business.
Anyway, struts installed, boot replaced, and many happy miles under the tires since.
I did say that one of the reasons for getting this car was to learn on...
Nonetheless, thanks for all the input on how to work the bushings. I'm sure it will come up eventually.